Understanding others

Understanding others is one of the hardest things to do because most of us assume that they are just like us, or even worse, we act as if they have no feelings.

The first thing that I find is important in understanding others is to understand the basics of all people. You've probably met many different types of people, the kinds that almost bubble over in their enthusiasm and the kinds that seem to be locked inside of a robot, but both of them still are alike. No matter how someone looks or acts on the outside, inside they have an abundance of feelings.

One other way that can help you relate to others is to be aware of the differences in people. This is where personality comes in. Many people like to make decisions based on facts and others go more on their feelings, some are more "open" then others. One person will need to have order in everything they do and another would hate to have a life-style set down with rules. Even though there are these differences, that doesn't mean that one is right and the other's wrong, they are just seeing things from a different perspective. Just think about it, if all of us were plan oriented and basing decisions on facts, who would brighten up the world and make us laugh? And if everyone was the last-minute dwelling on feelings type how fast could the world lose its order? This sounds like nostalgic I know, but it's something to think about. :)

Well we know that everyone has emotions whether they show them or not and we also know that they are different but this knowledge won't take us anywhere unless we see how to use it. So in the first place we need to always respect others; for their beliefs, perspective and emotions. Just because someone else has a totally different view point then you doesn't mean you shouldn't respect them, they still deserve just as much respect as you. Sometimes for the people that are oriented and it's hard to understand why another person can't hold himself in a bit and be realistic. At the same time some try to get others to let loose a little. One view isn't better then the other, it's just different and we need to see it that way and that's the beginning to "understanding others".